Unrealistic weight expectations

Betsy felt that the “Jumping Over The Moon” Olympics was udderly a bunch of manure. Especially when the Moon was being snarky towards her.

“You should lose some weight. Then you’ll be able to achieve your dream,” the Moon said.

Betsy rolled her eyes. “Shut the moo up. I prefer my weight on the ground than being inflated with unrealistic expectations.”

Illustration done on Arteza Real Brush Watercolor Pens.


Betsy don’t have time for others who want to police her body. Even if they “meant well” (in their own terms, not hers).

I get it – most folks in society think that when they see a plus size / fat person walking on the street, they feel it’s their right to go up to that person and say “Hey, you need to lose weight so that you’ll live longer.” Or in some cases, feel the need to troll and bully others with comments like “lol go die you fattie.” This is not happening on social media and when we walk out in public, only. It can also be in the form of an app via our mobile devices, such as the case with Weight Watchers releasing their app that’s targeted for kids.

Let’s be clear – those type of comments are not endearing. The messages we send to others (whether subliminal or explicit) are abusive and is damaging to our self esteem. Telling someone to lose weight is like saying you just magically earned a degree in weight loss and you feel the need to share that information from the Internet because “science backed it up” and you want to be that friend/relative who cares about someone’s well being because they couldn’t fit in a single digit clothing size.

Nope, nope and nope 🙅🏻‍♀️ My response? Mind your own business.

Growing up, I’ve had those comments said to me when I was in high school. Even though I was a size 6 at the time, I often heard relatives and classmates telling me that I need to be thin. That I shouldn’t be eating fast food. Even when I became a mom, I sometimes see it from other mothers who passively made comments saying “well, so and so lost 20 pounds after giving birth. She looks so amazing!”

So, what you’re trying to tell me is that I should end up looking like a skeleton? 🤔

Yeah uh…no thanks. I prefer meat on my bones.

I used to go diet hopping years ago due to my insecurities. I tried weight loss pills, those teas where it promised you a “thinner version” without any exercise and sometimes barely ate anything. Not only I ended up being more sick, I felt miserable as shit.

I’ve always been told that you need to eat the “right kind of foods” to maintain your weight loss and if you eat those certain type of foods, you’ll gain weight and die early on. Sometimes, I’ve read stories about folks living up to 100 years old and beyond because their diet consisted of pizza, alcohol and smoking (name whatever vice here that society shunned upon).

Frankly, the topic of weight loss will always be highly debated. Everyone will always have a side in which they’ll fall under. Still, I think many of us should at least have the common sense in letting others be when it comes to their choices. It’s their bodies, their rules.

Speaking of the diet culture, I highly recommend checking out The Fuck It Diet by Caroline Dooner. No, I wasn’t sponsored for mentioning this book. I really enjoy reading Caroline’s book. I wished that the information I knew now from this book was told to me when I was growing up. It would’ve saved me so much heartache and stress when in reality, my body is (and will always be) fine.

I don’t care in looking like a cookie cutter model. I just want to be me, happily eating my donuts, ice cream and pizza wherever and whenever I want without guilt and shame.

If you ever been shamed for eating and being told that you need to lose weight, tell them to mind their business. Do what makes you happy. You’re allowed to enjoy yourself to the fullest. Take up space. Be seen. Be heard.

Namaste,

Diana

Crop top for ALL bodies

Betsy wants you to know that no matter your body type, you CAN rock that crop top you always wanted to wear.

Don’t listen to anyone who says you CAN’T. Society is the problem, not you.


Hi friends 👋 I hope this post finds you well. As many have you seen, I’ve been inactive while I was struggling with my own health issues. I had to make some visits with my OB/GYN and my primary care doctor in taking the next necessary steps for my overall health. Not to mention, taking care of my son who had an allergic reaction that resulted in an ER visit. He’s doing much better. He’s a fighter, just like his mama 🐮

In a nutshell, July has proven to be a hot mess for medical stuff. Doesn’t help that it’s currently under Mercury Retrograde 🤷‍♀️ In any case, this month was a moment of reflection and self care. I’m pretty sure the words “self-care” gets thrown a lot around, but it’s worth repeating. When I’m feeling that sense of guilt if I’m doing the right thing in taking care of myself, these are my affirmations that I love to say out loud:

Self care is not selfish.

Your body and mind needs self care.

Your own health comes first.

You can’t run on an empty tank without treating yourself first.

Don’t expect to help others if you can’t help yourself.

My biggest reward in self care is actually wearing a crop top. And yes, I’m a plus size woman with a large belly, thunder thighs, a very large butt and a double chin.

When I drew Betsy, I envisioned her being confident, care free and being a total badass in rocking her crop top (it reads Udderly Fabulous, in case you’re wondering). I remember feeling scared and vulnerable when I wore my crop top with my yoga pants at home. But once I saw myself and noticed how cute it looked, I felt great.

I’m always inspired and happy to see plus size bloggers, activists, artists, influencers and models embracing their size without fail. And I love how they’re not afraid to shut down haters who make an attempt to police their bodies.

Don’t be afraid to wear what you want. Your fashion, your choices. You don’t need to be thin to rock a certain outfit. Embrace your body to its fullest extent.

By the way, I absolutely adore Lizzo. Fellow Taurus woman and she slays every way possible 🥰

Rock your body this summer and all seasons. You are doing amazing and you deserve to flaunt yourself every way possible 👏

Namaste,

Diana

Bikini Outfit

Betsy felt cute and happy as she modeled herself in front of the mirror. She didn’t care about what others think of her bikini outfit.

“The beach will need to make room for my awesomeness when I arrive,” she proudly said to herself.

Green tea

When I’m being told to eat healthy again and stop having ice cream.

I do like green tea but I still want my sweets 😤

Made with Procreate using their new built in text tool! It’s been a long time coming, but this feature finally arrived 😁

What are your favourite guilty pleasure foods?

Namaste,

Diana