Having a support system to overcome the bad moments

Betsy understands that her family helps her get through the hard times. She’s misunderstood by others. But Mister & Missy appreciates her unique nature. Betsy is comfortable in sharing her thoughts without feeling judged or ridiculed.


Having a support system goes a long way. To me, I’m grateful for my close family members and friends who have been there for me since Day 1. Being an artist, I sometimes feel that the illustrations I make do not fit in the cookie cutter mould on how art should look like.

But, that’s the beauty about artwork. There’s no limitations to your creativity. Being reminded about my happiness in creating my Betsy illustrations after my last post made me feel reassured that my heart is in the right place.

I don’t have the answers on what an artist should and should not do in terms of their creativity. But what I can share is that it’s so important to find a support system that will build you up, provide honest feedback and cheer you on even through your darkest moments.

We all need love and encouragement. There’s no reason for us to place ourselves in a toxic circle who would constantly hate on our work when deep down inside, their insecurities show through their actions and beyond the surface.

Understandably, not many of us have the luxury on having a support system immediately at the beginning of their creative inception. But, do know that you have others out there (including myself) who believes in your work. There are others who will support your quirks, your witty captions, etc.

Out of the sea of negativity that I’ve seen on social media, there are a few good positive accounts that shine brightly. In the midst of the tragedy, bullying and gaslighting, I’m grateful for seeing others putting on a brave face while posting inspirational work.

I’m still struggling in maintaining my upbeat nature. But I’m glad that I have others who I can lean on and my faith to get me by through the rough patches.

Namaste,

Diana


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The biggest lie I’ve told myself

Recently, I’ve encountered a bad comment on a drawing that was shared by a well known art supply company. I felt proud of the progress. At the same time, I also felt a bit doubtful.

Needless to say, the person that wrote the bad comment didn’t give any inclusion on how it can be improved. It just simply mentioned that it was bad. Okay…thanks, I guess? I didn’t expect that the company decided to share my image on their platform. As such, it looked like it was deleted originally from the company page and the person decides to write in again on how my artwork sucked. Talk about persistence. The only thing I can do at the moment was block and ignore.

I’m generally open to receiving feedback, so long as they are constructive and aligned with the purpose of improving. After all, no one is an expert and we’re all learning our crafts through trial and error. No one is expected to know everything overnight.

In these moments, I keep telling myself that everything is fine. That everything will pass and people will forget. Even after reporting the instances and minding my own business, you figured everything will settle in the dust, right? Not quite so…

When you have an inner critic telling you the negative comments are valid and want you to feel like shit, that’s when it becomes mental torture. No one can’t see your struggles. Only you can feel them, slowly aching away your soul as you’re wrestling with the inner demons.

It’s one thing to face the negative comments online. But I think the greater battlefield in all of this is when it occurs in your mind. You can’t escape from it.

It’s been a constant feeling for many years and unfortunately, it’s not something it can disappear permanently. On some days, I’m fine (without lying to myself). And other times, I’m feeling the pressure and weight on myself while attempting to hide the depression. Sometimes it comes from my ability to overthink situations. Other times, it comes from outside influences.

Not every battle happens on the physical level. Many of us are facing with our struggles and are doing the best we can to cope through it all. I think as an artist in trying to convey these emotional pieces into something tangible has been a good way for me to express my sensitive moments. Sharing these experiences with everyone has given me a better perspective on how many of us are dealing with our mental health. And my hope is that others can feel and perhaps relate to the struggles.

Every day, I’m finding ways in setting boundaries, silencing the inner critic and ignoring the folks from the online world who are either passive aggressive, mean or sadists. It’s not easy. For others, it may look easy. But emotionally, it isn’t the case.

I realise that once I started showcasing my work, everyone wants to be a critic. Unfortunately, that can’t be helped. Everyone will always have an opinion. It makes me wonder how famous celebrities cope with these types of large scale criticisms.

My own happiness is what I create and share in a conscious manner, while not being swayed into thinking that I should hide and live in fear. The lesson I’ve learned is that not everyone will be on board with your passion projects. Additionally, we are our own worst enemies. That nagging voice in my mind telling me that I’m no good and the trolls are actually right about me? For now, she’s on vacation. She might make an appearance again. But until then, she’s not welcomed in front of my doorstep.

Have you had moments where you’ve dealt with your inner and outer critics? What did you do to cope with these moments? Let me know in the comments below.

Namaste,
Diana